It’s not a big secret, Americans are glum about their futures. A recent Pew Research Study shows that most Americans are worried about money, their futures, and the direction of the country. All of this makes for a pretty gloomy outlook on life. However many of us are doing what we can to pull ourselves out of this funk.
At $10.4 Billion (with a B), the self-help market show no signs of decline. We are all looking for a solution to what troubles us. And we are willing to spend LOTS of money on the problem.
But I would argue that much of that money is wasted and we would be better served by following a simple plan to not only pull ourselves out of the emotional tailspin, but to really get the most out of our daily lives.
I hope that you are enjoying a relaxing morning, or maybe just got back from an uplifting church service. Either way, welcome and I hope the you are enjoying your day.
Earlier this week, I talked about Medocrity and some reasons why we should never settle for it. We also discussed why failure is never an option. I hope that these posts were helpful and I would ask that if you enjoyed them and they spoke to you, that you would pass them on to your friends or family.
Here some interesting articles I found this week and I am passing them on to you!
If you have 3 minutes, it would make a HUGE impact on this community.
It was a busy week for me…lots of projects. But the really funny thing was, no matter how busy I was, I got up early enough to have my quiet time and plan my day out. And I still got most everything done. It’s amazing how prioritizing you day, and the BEGINNING of you day, can have a tremendous effect on the END of your day.
I am very excited about a new project that I am working on with my friend Lou Carfizzi. It’s going to be an incredible help to lots of people. It revolves around stress and even though we cannot eliminate it all together, we can manage it. I will make an announcement soon.
I am also very excited about Thanksgiving this week. What are you thankful for? We will be inviting friends over who don’t have family close by and need a place to “be” on Thanksgiving. If you are in Orlando and are looking for a GREAT dinner… contact me!
Have a GREAT week and remember to CHOOSE to be awesome.
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Sundays are a great time to grab a cup of coffee or tea (I’m enjoying Dunkin Donuts blend from my new Kiureg), sit back, and enjoy the weekend paper. I can remember my dad lying on the living room floor reading the Sunday paper, and that is what I am trying to recreate here. A weekly place to come and catch up on some of the amazing articles you might have missed during your week.
Please let me know what you think about any of these articles, or may, just say hello. You can leave a comment or email me directly.
Seth Godin has a GREAT article of Fear the Fear, Feel the Fear. Seth is one of my gurus, he is funny, brilliant, and speaks directly to the point!
Michael Hyatt encourages us to have better dinner conversations with a GREAT podcast. Do yourself a huge favor and soak up everything Michael has to say – you will be better for having done so!
Tripp Lanier, who is pretty amazing himself, has an incredible podcast. He can be blunt, but he helps remind me that I can still be strong AND not be jerk! He interviews former Navy Seal Mark Devine and helps us to develop an unbeatable mind. It’s got some language in it, but it’s awesome.
I want to thank everyone for their kind words of encouragement as I re-launched this blog. It’s been a lot of work and I have some really incredible things that we are going to do over the next few weeks and months.
I want to give a very special shout out to my good friend and colleague, Lou Carfizzi from LifeCare Counseling. He has always been a friend and has encouraged me through this process. He and I will be sharing some really cool plans over the next few weeks that will be absolutely incredible, so please stay tune. On a personal note, Lou… Thanks.
Please feel free to leave a comment or a question and I will get to them as soon as I can. I want to create a dialog and would love to know what you think about the above articles or maybe you have something really interesting to share. I would love to hear from you. You can find me over on Facebook and Twitter as well as email.
Thanks for stopping by and I will see you later this week!
I recently saw a documentary about heckling and criticism that made an incredible impact on me and I really started to think about how critical our society has become. It also reminded me that I need to be more aware of how I talk to people and express my opinions.
When I saw this movie, I was reminded about many of the conversations that I have had with other people and how poorly I communicated my criticism of their work/ideas. I am not proud of those moments, and looking back with 20/20 vision, I would like to think that I would handle them differently. But I still make those mistakes from time to time. I think we all do.
I think that we all have the capacity to forget that the people BEHIND the avatars online or the movies and books we read have emotions. When the need arises and we have to criticize someone’s work, we can forget that there is a fine line between giving our opinions and crushing someone’s feelings.
Check out this trailer for Heckler (available on Netflix - affiliate link)
I know that are going to be times when you have to provide your opinion on an idea or piece of work, and you should always be honest, but honest criticism does not always have to be harsh or negative. Any criticism you give should always be tempered with the other person’s emotions in mind.
Simple Solution to Provide Criticism of Someone’s Work / Ideas
1. Always Provide Honest and Direct Feedback
2. Your Feedback Should Also Include Suggestions to Make Improvements
3. Before and After Your Speak…LISTEN to What the Other Person Has to Say
4. Follow Up Afterwards to Provides Support and Encouragement
I know that all this MAY sound a little Politically Correct, but if it’s all about relationships we have to work at communicating or dislikes as easily as our likes…and not steamroll over people’s feelings in the process.
Are We TOO Critical?
From Twitter and Facebook to Blogs and Websites, the Internet has allowed millions of people the opportunity to become self-proclaimed critics. And all too often, to seek polarity and page hits, their reviews go negative. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
I have a friend, Lou, he is a blogger and he is one of the most positive people I know! His posts are positive, his podcasts are positive and his tweets are positive. It’s just how he chooses to live. Even when someone wrongs him, he stays positive. Trust me on that one…
Our culture THRIVES on negativity. Listen to the political pundits (on BOTH sides) during the last Presidential Campaign. When was the last time you heard one of them say “I think that the only way this candidate can win is to go POSITIVE?”
Negativity is everywhere: newspapers, magazines, blog posts, tweets, updates… We have become a harsh society. Because it’s so easy to be this way. It takes a lot of work to stay positive and communicate with grace and poise.
It may sound old fashioned, but the Golden Rule still applies… Treat others as you would like to be treated. From the living room to the board room, it’s still the best advice around!
It’s Time to Step Back and Think
I think we should all take a few minutes and self-evaluate the conversations we are having and try to find ways to improve the WAY we communicate to our friends, families, and co-workers.
If our culture is to blame for all this negativity…it’s time to change the culture. We are responsible for the words we say and the way in which we speak. It’s time to take back the our culture and change the way we communicate.
We must choose to be positive. I am tired of the negative talk… It’s all up to us…. Will you join me?
What’s the most negative this you have ever seen or read?
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