A Simple Formula For Overcoming Fear and Worry

A Simple Formula For Overcoming Fear and Worry

Encouragement, Leadership, Personal Development

A Simple Formula For Overcoming Fear and Worry

If you ask most people why they have not achieved their goals or the level of success they desire, they will usually respond with some built-in excuse (negative belief) that is holding them back. Underlying this excuse or negative belief is usually a fear or worry. How many times have you attempted something new, only to stop before you ever got started because you were afraid of what others may think? Or you don’t think you have the time or money or both? Or because you believe are inexperienced or lack the knowledge to succeed?


Recommended Reading – Fearless: Imagine Your Life Without Fear, by Max Lucado


Someone once defined F.E.A.R. as False Evidence Appearing Real, which means we have chosen to believe in something that is not really true. But because it is our belief, it is our reality. Worry is nothing more than a sustained fear caused by indecision. Sometimes we need to ask some tough questions to determine the cause of these worries or fears. Once the fear is identified, a simple formula can be used to overcome that fear.

The first step is to clearly define what you are afraid of or worried about. Write in down. Put in on paper. Half of your worries and fears will be solved the instant you can define them clearly by putting them on paper. What once seemed big in your mind will look small and insignificant on paper.

For the other half, you need to move on to step two. Ask yourself, what is the worst possible thing that can happen if this fear or worry becomes true? Make a list, yes, write it down on paper underneath your clearly defined worry. Keep writing down everything that comes to mind until you have identified the worst possible outcome. Do you realize that 90% of what we worry about never happens? Think about how much time you spend on worrying about stuff that never will happen. This list will help you see that.

Once you have completed your list, resolve in your mind that you will accept the worst possible thing that can happen. Since 90% of those things will never occur and generally the other 10% will not kill you, realize you will survive. Accept the worst possible thing by telling yourself, I can handle it, over and over again. This will start to turn things around.


Recommended Reading: When People Are Big and God is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man, by Edward T. Welch


Finally, begin now to make sure the worst never happens. Put together an action plan of exactly what you need to do to turn things around. By focusing on positive changes and implementing your action plan, your focus will shift to the positive outcomes and away from your fears. You will begin to feel better because now you can DO SOMETHING! Positive action is the only cure for fear and worry. Try this formula today and see if it will work for you. It has worked for me

Hold On To Your Dreams

Hold On To Your Dreams

Leadership, Personal Development

Hold On To Your Dreams

How many times have you abandoned an idea, project or dream because someone made a disparaging remark or rolled their eyes when you told them about it?

Relinquishing your dreams

All too frequently we allow others to dictate what is good, right or possible. We allow them to steal our dreams. Notice I use the word “allow.” No one can put you down, stomp on your dream, or kill an idea of yours unless you allow them to.

Consider that:

  • The movie Star Wars from a young George Lucas, was rejected by every movie studio in Hollywood before 20th Century Fox finally produced it. It went on to be one of the largest-grossing movies in film history.
  • As a child, Sylvester Stallone was frequently beaten by his father and told he had no brains. He grew up an unhappy loner. He floated in and out of schools. An adviser at Drexel University told him that based on his aptitude tests he should pursue a career as an elevator repair person. It’s not a bad profession but it’s certainly not where “Rocky” ended up!
  • Albert Einstein was criticized for not wearing socks or cutting his hair. He didn’t speak until he was four, and didn’t read until he was seven. One observer noted, “He could be mentally retarded”.
  • An expert said of Vince Lombardi:”He possesses minimal football knowledge. Lacks motivation. . .
  • Beethoven handled the violin awkwardly and preferred playing his own compositions instead of improving his
    technique. His teacher proclaimed him hopeless as a composer.
  • Walt Disney was fired from his job as a newspaper editor for lack of ideas. He also went bankrupt several times
    before he created Disneyland.
  • Henry Ford failed and went broke 5 times before he finally succeeded.
  • Louisa May Alcott, the author of Little Women, was encouraged to find work as a servant or seamstress. She would certainly never be a writer.
  • In 1944, the director of the Blue Book Modeling Agency told modeling hopeful Norma Jean Baker (Marilyn Monroe), “You’d better learn secretarial work, or else get married.”

It Takes Courage

So what are your ideas? Your thoughts? Your dreams? Your plans?

It doesn’t matter if anyone supports what you want to do.The important thing is for YOU to believe. For YOU to ignore the people who say you can’t do it – and DO IT ANYWAY! It takes courage. It takes persistence. It takes believing in the “voice inside” when no one else does.

Ideas, dreams and visions are planted within you because you have the ability to make them happen. You’ll learn, grow, scramble, fail, and get back up again! The important thing is to simply never give up. The people I mentioned earlier never gave up – and they made great things happen!

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do [Podcast]

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do [Podcast]

Personal Development, podcast

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What do you do when you cannot seem to discover what you need to do in life/work/relationships

Sometimes you just don’t know what to do. The frustration and emotions that come from not knowing which way to turn when you have to make serious life decision can often be overwhelming.

In this week’s Real Life Podcast, co-hosts Lou and John how you can discern what to do when you don’t know what to do.

In this episode we discuss:

– How not knowing what to do affects our mental health
– Steps to discover the be decision to make
– How to get un-stuck in life/work/relationships

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Our favorite part of doing these podcasts is participating in the conversation they provoke. Each week, we ask one question. This week, it is this: Have you ever found yourself stuck, not knowing what to do?  Share your answer on Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn.

Have a question or comment?  Send it to questions@reallifepodcast.com


About Us

louLou Carfizzi holds an Masters in Professional Counseling from Liberty University.  Lou has 14 years experience as a therapist working with families, individuals, adolescents, and providing technology based therapeutic solutions and has extensive experience treating a wide variety of disorders and situations through his practice at LifeCareCounseling.net.

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unnamedJohn C. Donahue is a blogger, writer, speaker with a focus on leadership and personal development.  Having spent over 2 decades in occupational ministry and the business world, John shares his insights and experiences providing encouragement, motivation and direction on his blog JohnCDonahue.com.

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